Money…off limits

i know i’ve talked about this before, but i think i’m going to revisit it today…

in the midst of really healthy, bro to bro, deep, committed, godly friendships, there are still some subjects that are almost completely off limits in our conversations.  even when we know that a couple is struggling in their marriage, we have a “don’t ask, don’t tell” relationship.  it is not socially, or even spiritually, acceptable to ask, “hey, how’s your sex life?” or “are you being sexually satisfied?”.  are you kidding me?!  we’d rather watch a couple go down in flames before we bring that subject up!!  but real friends aren’t afraid to wade out into deeper waters.

we also stay away from ever offering our help or suggestions to parents, even if we see mistakes being made.  we con ourselves into believing that it’s none of our business, because we don’t want anybody evaluating our parenting, either.  so the fear of risking our friendship paralyzes us and we sit by and say nothing.

that brings me to the money issue.  other than sex and parenting, there isn’t another topic that causes believers to wig out more than talking about money.  it makes grown men and women shrink in fear and otherwise spiritually mature followers of christ react with defensiveness, self-consciousness, or even some form of retaliation against the church or church leadership.

so why is this?

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