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there’s a lesson we can learn about marriage from the world of banking.
it’s the concept of deposits and withdrawals.
it’s really simple. put lots of money in and be really careful about taking it out. that’s it.
nobody would ever be caught guilty calling me a financial wiz. looking back over the course of my life together with wanda, we have not made a boat-load of great business deals. for the most part, we have spent what we made. the only thing we’ve ever really invested in were people and the kingdom.
you would think…after looking at our financials…that our goal in life was not to have any money left over when we die. yeah, we’re pretty much on track with that goal.
but even though nobody would ever want me to come and teach a class on economics, i’m confident that money has taught us a few things about marriage.
making regular, timely deposits in our marriage relationship is critical. every compliment…every act of generosity… every expression of sacrifice…every kept promise…every completed chore… every spontaneous outburst of affection … every offering of forgiveness…every time we overlook a mistake…every time we stop to really listen…every text, phone call, letter, facebook message, gift, dinner, smile, footrub, washed dish, cooked meal, cleaned mess… is a deposit in the bank of your relationship.
the more deposits we have, the better. because withdrawals are going to happen. some of them we know about in advance…but most we don’t. most are simply the curveballs of life that are thrown at us…and they chip away at the stability of our marriages, if there are not enough deposits.
sometimes, the withdrawals are huge. sometimes we make enormous, stupid, lunatic mistakes. sometimes we hurt our partners deeply. but even those sins and failures can be overcome…when there’s enough in the bank.
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