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we all operate off of these little things called basic assumptions.
basic assumptions are beliefs that are simply taken for granted…as if they were true…without any real facts to back up the claims. they are just things we assume to be true…and then order our lives around them. here are a few general ones:
“i will be happy if…”
…i have a job i like
…i get a nicer car
…people like me
…everything goes my way
“i will be a success if…”
…i get a promotion at work
…i play on a winning team
…i make ______much money
…i get recognized by certain people
“i will feel worthwhile if…”
somebody loves me
my children turn out well
i get an advanced degree
i live in a nice house
so do you get how basic assumptions work? we all have them. we all order our lives around them. and they are all inadequate. they are all conditional. they are all destined to leave us unfulfilled. things like real happiness and real success and real personal worth and real emotional security are connected to values that are eternal, not conditional or temporary.
this is a huge lesson to learn!
so what are your basic assumptions about marriage? what do you assume marriage happiness is based on? what do you assume defines marriage success? what assumptions are you making about the worth and value and purpose of marriage?
are your assumptions based on the temporary and disposable things of life…or on the eternal, absolute values found in the heart of god?
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