Marriage Tuesday

here are five more mistakes we make in our marriages…things we do or habits we cultivate that undermine the commitments we make.   this will be all for a while.   at least until we start listing some more…

have any of these crept their way into your relationships?

1.   throwing your partner under the bus – to be honest,  you are not perfect.   shock.   and on top of that,  you didn’t marry perfection.   you are both just a couple of mistakes waiting to happen.   so when one of you shows your true colors,  don’t ever trash your partner in front of others.   this is your partner. your one flesh.

2.   busyness – i suppose this should go without saying,  but most days i feel like the number one enemy of healthy marriages is out-of-control schedules.   too busy…to tired…to pre-occupied…too many meetings…too scattered… too many plates spinning. so stop the madness!   make some changes.   today.   nobody is going to do it for you.

3.   accumulating too much stuff – our stuff takes our money.   our stuff demands our attention.   our stuff steals our affections.   our stuff gives a false sense of security.   our stuff becomes idols.   our stuff replaces conversation.   our stuff becomes a substitute for the real thing.

4.   not admitting we’re wrong – who are we trying to fool?   nobody knows us better than our spouse,  yet we refuse to simply say,  “i’m sorry.  i was wrong.”   such a simple fix.

5.   letting bitterness creep in – look…you’re going to get frustrated.   you’re going to do things that get under each other’s skin.   you will say things you don’t really mean…or you may actually mean them,  at the time.   but no matter what,  you can’t allow resentment to sink in.   you can’t allow unresolved anger to work its way into your heart and steal your joy or rob your will to keep your promises.   you just can’t.

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