Axioms…from my perspective

normally, i dedicate thursdays to giving some of my personal life axioms…truth that, from my perspective, is self-evident. sometimes practical. sometimes philosophical. sometimes whimsical. but truth, no less.

“sometimes, there’s just nothing you can do.”

have you ever had to emotionally separate from someone you love? have you ever had to put up internal protective barriers between you and someone else, because even though you wanted to be close, they didn’t…and you didn’t want to feel that pain? have you ever wanted to have a relationship with someone, but you had to create distance…waiting for them to be honest?

a while back, i shared with you this axiom:  “risk being hurt by people.” don’t get me wrong.  i still believe in this axiom.  it is still one of the most profound lessons i have ever learned and i will stand by it’s truth and live with it’s consequences until the day that i die.  but there is a “flip side” to this truth.

sometimes, there just isn’t anything more that you can do.

sometimes, you will give it all…pour it all out…and others will not reciprocate.  sometimes, you will want more and deeper and all you will get is shallow.  sometimes, you will want to be great friends and all you will get is cordial.  sometimes, you will want to share life and heart and spirit…and all you will get is the passing of information.

you will want to speak honestly…resolve differences…dig deeper…know the truth…struggle with dissimilarity…feel their pain…walk through the uneasy, the uncomfortable, the darkness, the anger…but they won’t.

sometimes, there’s nothing more that you can do but wait.

it may change.  it may not.  but you can bet it will stink.

#friendship #hurt