A thought on marriage

i did a wedding tonight.  not my normal wednesday night fare, but pretty cool.  it was the second marriage for both of them.  i know that god hates divorce.  that’s what it says in the bible, for crying out loud.  i believe it.  i teach it.  i hold it up as the truth.  but things happen.  sometimes really bad things where people get hurt and promises are broken and trust is sacrificed.  sometimes things just happen.

when a marriage fails, there’s a lot of blame to go around.  no one is completely innocent.  no one is completely at fault.  both parties share the responsibility for the failure.  things happen.

does god bring good out of bad?  i hope so.  can god bless something that has it’s origin in something that he hates?  does god orchestrate happy endings to stories that were never supposed to have happened?  does god honor broken promises?  sometimes, when theology meets reality, it gets messy.

i’m glad my friends found each other.  i’m glad they both have enough faith and enough love left over to try again.  i wish their first marriages hadn’t ended.  i’m sure that’s what god wishes also.

what god brings together, let no one pull apart.  yeah…

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